We have all heard the phrase, "You have to love your self first". As a professional psychic, I have heard this quite a bit over the years. As a clairvoyant, I can "see" or "feel" what is actually happening in a person's life and what they can do to get more balance in their lives if they really want to change to occur.
We have all said or heard it said to us that, 'You have to love your 'self' first', but we really have no clue on how to go about acting on it. When a person is upset, overwhelmed or angry, this type of comment is often viewed as an attack. Neither person really knows how to begin the change necessary to correction the problem.
People usually have the intension of trying to get the person to do something about their situation. Loving yourself first is a well meaning phrase, but, without the proper training, most people don't have any idea what it takes to actually love yourself. Saying something like this to someone can cause them to feel unsupported and they must go it alone with no idea how.
What people really need is just someone to listen to them. They are not really hearing what you are saying and feel a stab of pain and even more over whelmed when they hear words like this.
1. I don't really know any other thing to say that will help
2. If only you'd do what I tell you to do, everything will get resolved
3. Quit complaining and do something about it
4. I don't know how to be supportive, so, just do this
Psychics often hear from people when they feel at the end of their rope and in deep trouble. They feel rejected by their friends; they are desperate for someone to help them feel better by listening and giving them compassionate advice.
People need to be treated with kindness and compassion when they are deep into emotional trouble. This helps them to help themselves. Here is an clear explanation of what should happen when picturing your 'self' saving your 'self':
Your young child is being ganged up on at recess. Most people run to their crying child and pull them out of the situation. Parents usually have a fierce innate protection toward their children and run to protect them immediately without thinking about it. You have saved their 'self' by removing them from the situation and then calming them down.
Adults can also get beat up on the playground of life, and, we have to learn to save our "selves". When adults get into difficult problems, they tend to get stuck and hope that, in time, things will change on their own. We buy time, longing for our situation to right itself, while continuing to endure pain and suffering.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Avoiding people that are negative toward you
2. Take a class and learn something that you have always dreamed of
Most people do not want to hear that it is them selves that must make a plan and begin to execute it. Instead, they call psychics for readings and hope that the solution is in that reading. The psychic's role is to try to help you connect with the solutions that are in front of you, not to solve it.
You need to begin the process of loving your 'self' first, so that other people will want to.
We have all said or heard it said to us that, 'You have to love your 'self' first', but we really have no clue on how to go about acting on it. When a person is upset, overwhelmed or angry, this type of comment is often viewed as an attack. Neither person really knows how to begin the change necessary to correction the problem.
People usually have the intension of trying to get the person to do something about their situation. Loving yourself first is a well meaning phrase, but, without the proper training, most people don't have any idea what it takes to actually love yourself. Saying something like this to someone can cause them to feel unsupported and they must go it alone with no idea how.
What people really need is just someone to listen to them. They are not really hearing what you are saying and feel a stab of pain and even more over whelmed when they hear words like this.
1. I don't really know any other thing to say that will help
2. If only you'd do what I tell you to do, everything will get resolved
3. Quit complaining and do something about it
4. I don't know how to be supportive, so, just do this
Psychics often hear from people when they feel at the end of their rope and in deep trouble. They feel rejected by their friends; they are desperate for someone to help them feel better by listening and giving them compassionate advice.
People need to be treated with kindness and compassion when they are deep into emotional trouble. This helps them to help themselves. Here is an clear explanation of what should happen when picturing your 'self' saving your 'self':
Your young child is being ganged up on at recess. Most people run to their crying child and pull them out of the situation. Parents usually have a fierce innate protection toward their children and run to protect them immediately without thinking about it. You have saved their 'self' by removing them from the situation and then calming them down.
Adults can also get beat up on the playground of life, and, we have to learn to save our "selves". When adults get into difficult problems, they tend to get stuck and hope that, in time, things will change on their own. We buy time, longing for our situation to right itself, while continuing to endure pain and suffering.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Avoiding people that are negative toward you
2. Take a class and learn something that you have always dreamed of
Most people do not want to hear that it is them selves that must make a plan and begin to execute it. Instead, they call psychics for readings and hope that the solution is in that reading. The psychic's role is to try to help you connect with the solutions that are in front of you, not to solve it.
You need to begin the process of loving your 'self' first, so that other people will want to.
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